So, I had the most amazing time helping out a dear friend with a bridal event that her organization hosted yesterday. (Huge shout-outs to Events Simply Beautiful and Tywana Tyler for a RAWC Star Bridal Soiree!!) The event itself was absolutely amazing and elegant. There were flowers and linens and makeup and cupcakes and a chocolate fountain and just “oh my!” LOL Certainly enough “frou-frou she-she” floating around to satisfy everyone! (smile)
So what is “frou-frou she-she” you might ask? Well, it’s all things “girly”, the things that some of us ladies dream about from the time we were little girls. It’s that whole “sugar and spice and everything nice” bit. It’s lip-gloss and flowers and shiny things. Frou-frou is actually a French term used to describe something as fancy, decorative, elaborate and frilly. The Urban Dictionary online describes the French derivative, “fru-fru” as being “very decorated or girly in nature; lacy or frilly in nature.” It can take on many forms as one completes her metamorphosis transforming from little girl to mature woman. Part of it is the whole romantic atmosphere thingy that makes us fall in “love” with the concept of being “in love.” Nothing wrong with a little “frou-frou she-she” right? Of course not! However, when it comes to the idea of marriage, something so honorable, so sacred in the sight of God it’s critical not to place the “frou-frou she-she” above that foundation in Christ.
Being around all that frilly and elegant wedding stuff yesterday really got my wheels spinning. I began to contemplate the idea of a beautiful wedding versus the concept (and commitment) of marriage and how they are not the same thing.
Once upon a time, yours truly, was engaged to be married. At that time my head was cloudy with a chance of blow bubbles and bouquets (and doves and ice carvings and streams of chocolate flowing from a lovely decadent fountain…LOL you get the wedding picture right?) I had so many ideas (even designed my own wedding dress), concepts, arrangements and "what not" to create the most beautiful wedding day EVER. I had boxes full of those big thick heavy bridal books, loads of brochures, flyers, postcards of various vendors and venues. We had considered having an outdoor ceremony at a beautiful park and then we pondered the idea of having the wedding aboard a cruise ship. All of these wonderful ideas were great but there was one very important thing that I neglected and that was, the marriage itself. The same energy that I expended delighting in the “frou-frou she-she” was not the same effort that I took to ensure that the marriage was being built upon a solid foundation (that foundation being in Christ of course and centered around God who IS love.) To make a very long story (that could actually someday turn into a book, hmmm…), when my 3-year engagement ended, I finally began to look at the experience no longer with fleeting and flimsy emotions but with a spiritual eye aligned and in tune with God’s will and His Word. As I allowed God to renew my heart I also began the process of renewing my mind and made a decision back then that a solid marriage was so much more important to me than a beautiful wedding. And even more of a priority than that, building a relationship with Christ was the foundation that I had simply missed all along. Even though my heart’s desire does still include a beautiful somewhat “frou-frou she-she” ceremony, if I can’t have a marriage that will bring God glory once the day is done…I’m content, right where I am.
After yesterday, I certainly remember how easy it becomes to get caught up in the beauty, décor and the planning of the actual day. Truly something that I think that every bride deserves to experience. However, today I’m so grateful to God for allowing me the privilege to understand His will and helping me to see beyond the “frou-frou she-she” of it all.
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